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Spanking in Popular Media

it is everywhere.

I did some ‘research’ this morning (while listening to Baptist sermons) on spanking in pop culture. Odd morning.

By the way, Baptists are dicks. According to this dude I was listening to, those Islam people are having kids all over the place (while Western Christians are not, which is outrageous); men are the heads of all households and are, like Jesus, the providers and protectors while women are there to assist–even in instances where the men are weaker, less intelligent, or financial losers; gay people getting married is something the world is okay with, but the world doesn’t know anything and we must fight to defeat the heathens; and young people need to stop this ‘dating’ nonsense because it’s outlandish and dangerous to our moral framework as God’s soldiers.
(A reader pointed out that the above might be misinterpreted to be my wording; I have no problem with people who date those who aren’t well off, and would never call people financial losers. Actual phrasing taken from the sermon I listened to.)

Back to spanking. Here’s my favorite clip from today:

I need to watch that show.

xoxo
Sadey

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BDSM Book Reviews: Sadey Interview!

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My latest interview is over on one of my favorite BDSM Book sites: BDSM Book Reviews. Please head on over to check it out, and be sure to peruse the website a bit if you already haven’t. There are some great author spotlights, giveaways, and obviously BDSM book reviews. :)

xoxo
Sadey

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Thank You, Beta Readers!

I want to give a shout-out to the amazing team of beta-readers who helped out with Bad Girl Good.

You’ll all receive (or already have received) an email thanking you in ‘person’. But publicly, I want to say: Y’all Are Awesome!

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Beta-readers make my books immeasurably better. They catch my silly mistakes, they tell me the truth about characters they hate or love, and they let me have it when I try to do things I shouldn’t do. They’re the first eyes on my stories, and the feedback helps a ton.

Thank you. 

Bad Girl Good will be hitting the electronic shelves shortly.

xoxo
Sadey

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Things Writers Know

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Most important thing writers know: Writers gotta write.

  1. Writers know submission guidelines matter, even if the guidelines make absolutely no fucking sense. They want you to send your story in Comic Sans? You send it to them in Comic Sans.
  2. Writers know they can’t edit their own work.
  3. Writers know everyone is a potential character. When they speak with people, they’re often paying extra attention to dialog and expressions.
  4. If there are strange dynamics going on between friends or colleagues, a writer will pick up on that. And think about how to put it in her book.
  5. If someone says something extremely witty or profound, a writer might steal it. When I do it, I usually tell people about that. It makes them happy.
  6. Writers know Scrivener is the best program for novel writing. Non-writers typically haven’t heard of Scrivener, unless they know writers.
  7. Writers know that editing is a sober process.
  8. They also know, in spite of the stereotypes, most writers aren’t addicts.
  9. Some are, though.
  10. Writers know “Being a Writer” consists of much more work than just writing. Writing is part of the battle. The other 85% of the battle is not as much fun, it takes up an incredible amount of time, and almost none of our non-writer friends can empathize or understand this.
  11. Writers know getting rejections hurts, but it’s kind of like relationships. The first one makes you feel like killing yourself. The tenth one makes you feel like killing the editor. Throughout the course of writing (and, hopefully, relationships), writers develop confidence. We get acceptances, and the rejections become easier to take. It gets easier to put blame on someone else, or accept the blame ourself.
  12. We fail a lot, and we are often to blame. I haven’t done the count, but my estimate is that I publish about 20% of what I write. I don’t know if that’s high or low, compared to other writers, because…
  13. Writers like to talk about success.
  14. Writers read in a writerly way. I edit and learn as I go: “Wow, that was a really good way to describe her nose. This sentence is way too long. Holy crap, they should’ve foreshadowed this better…Holy crap, they foreshadowed this well and I still didn’t see it coming!” I’m analyzing word choices, sentence structure…After I published my first novel, I sat down, read a book, and realized I was reading differently. I mentioned this to a writer. She said, “Yeah. That never goes away.”
  15. Writers know it’s sometimes really fun to talk about writing, but can also be kind of annoying. Usually, if we want to talk about what we’re working on, we’d prefer to initiate the conversation. Similarly, if we want you to read our works in progress, we’ll ask you to.
  16. Writers know it means a lot when their friends read their stuff. It kinda hurts when good friends don’t bother.
  17. Writers know this statement is false: “I would love to write, I just don’t have any free time.”
    There is no, “I would love to write.” You either love to write, or you don’t, but don’t bitch about your lack of free time. You love to write? You make time.

What am I missing? What else do writers know?

xoxo
Sadey

photo credit: Austin Kleon

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I Can Say With Confidence…

I am definitely doing this:

Live Live So Fully...

I googled the title of this entry. The first hit is a fairly apropos Bible verse:

So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?”
Hebrews 13:6

xoxo
Sadey

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Halloween! We’re Hungry for Love

HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Photo by Evan Leesson

With perhaps the most appropriate timing ever, Sommer Marsden’s new collection of zombie erotica (you read that right) is available now! I can’t think of anything better to do on Halloween night than curling up with some hot apple cider and enjoying a sexy new book.

That is a lie. I can think of better things to do that involve real-life penises and vaginas.

Maybe, in a perfect world, I’d do both. You can grab a copy of Coming Together: Hungry for Love through one of the venues listed below (or click the link to go straight to Amazon). Proceeds benefit the American Diabetes Association.

That’s right. Coming for a good cause.

I wrote a story for this collection called ‘Zombie Goddess’. Here’s a little excerpt:

Our attention turns to a large, black man who steps forward toward the crowd. He paces in front of us slowly. His arms are thick and muscular, and he holds a long leather flogger in his right hand. Finally, he pauses and regards the spectators with disdain.

“And who will it be tonight?” he shouts.

The silence is deafening. People look around, wondering who will volunteer. A few of them shrink back, like they don’t want to be seen.

“Here we go,” Jasper whispers. He clears his throat and announces, “This one!” He pushes me firmly forward.

“But why?” I hiss, trying to resist.

“You want to freak out the mortals, right?”

“Well, yes…”

“Remember this: You can’t feel the pain.”

Oh. Right. I smile as I realize what Jasper is suggesting, and I turn toward the man. The power he feels, I feel it too. I see it in his eyes and I know I can beat him. I can win this stupid mortal game.

Grasping the hem of my dress, I lift it over my head, just breaking eye contact with the man for a moment. Then I walk toward him, my heels clicking on the tiled floor, my hips swaying from side to side. When I’m right in front of him, I put my hands on my hip and cock my head to the side.

“One rule,” I say.

“Oh?” He looks bemused.

“No touching me.”

His eyebrows furrow. “And why not?”

“I don’t like to be touched.” I shrug, as if it’s really no big deal. This is the point where he could realize my game, who I am, what I’m doing. But he doesn’t. He points to the cross and I put myself into place, my arms and legs spread wide apart, my back to the crowd.

“I have to touch you to tie you,” he says.

“You don’t have to tie me. I’ll stay in place.” I grasp the rope loops with my hands.

The man walks around the cross, eyeing me. “What’s your word?”

“I don’t need a word.”

He pauses when he’s by my face and growls, “You need a word if you want to play with me.”

I shrug, indifferent. “Mercy?”

“Mercy. Say it and I stop.”

“I won’t need to say it.”

The corners of his mouth turn up just slightly. “Is that a challenge?”

I look him straight in the eyes. “Do you want it to be?”

~~

Buy Coming Together: Hungry for Love at these online stores:

:) Happy Halloween, everyone!
xoxo
Sadey

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No! Not *that*!

Yesterday I sent out Odyssey for Passion to my lovely team of amazing readers who offer feedback, insight, and general thoughts about the crazy stuff I write.

The time after clicking ‘send’ and waiting for feedback is slightly nerve-wracking, but it’s worth the wait. With the help of beta-readers, I’ve avoided silly errors (like having someone order a salad and later be eating a cheeseburger). I’ve changed endings (from a comment that said, ‘Well, the story was fine… but that ending was really weak). And, check this out: I avoided having a main character commit a huge fashion faux pas. David, from Under His Roof, was almost arrested by the Fashion Police for doing the unspeakable, the unthinkable!

Socks with sandals. This is an exact quote from a very observant reader:

When Rachel arrived David was sitting on the porch and he was wearing socks. When they return from their walk he kicks off his sandals…
Please tell me he wasn’t wearing socks with sandals!!!?!

:)

I just googled ‘Socks with Sandals’ for fun. So glad I did. Please watch this video:

xoxo
Sadey

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