I can think of a handful of reasons why I’ve had failed relationships (platonic and romantic).
Maybe more than a handful, actually. Whatever.
Anyway, the main reason, I think, comes down to a lack of focus on self-improvement, and an unconscious assumption that the other person is obligated to make me happy.
I do not fully agree with the above, but I do agree with it for most of the time. Just, sometimes I need to be taken care of. Sometimes others need to be taken care of. There are exceptions. There are emotional meltdowns (uh, usually on my end), there are logical meltdowns (usually not on my end), etc etc.
But meltdowns aside, most of the time I think we should be working on making ourselves happy and awesome. Our friends and partners will do the same, and we can motivate each other to be better people. Zoom.
So, in the self-improvement realm, I’m gonna start Starting Strength and get me some muscles, because I’ve never been able to do a push-up and that’s just stupid.
Also, I’m going to continue editing Under His Roof 3 today, even if it’s only a few pages. I haven’t picked it up in two weeks. I am afraid of it. Time to get over that.
Twenty-one days until the New Year, which is resolution time. I have one main resolution (fix my fucking head) but I’ll make some small easy ones too. Any fun ideas for good New Year’s resolutions? Resolution success rate is pretty awful, but it goes up significantly if we share our goals with each other. Get support in taking care of you!